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I have a problem with that judgement. We all have enough self esteem and self respect. Trust me on this. Tried and tested on self and in a keen observation of others. I am nearly 69. So… that said … moving on.
We make choices. Love is usually involved. Trauma - complex or simple - adds fuel to the crisis in the decision making process.
For instance, a beautiful young girl falls for a rogue who is handsome but not sincere. She leaves home, all safety, to be with said being. Cocaine at least is involved.
Now young girl is used to get money. She begs. She tells tall tales. Dark knight is in the wings. Waiting for the pot of gold.
Problem. Old woman says, why are you not home with your mom? Tears whell up in big beautiful eyes.
“Don’t let him see me crying.”
Old woman stands in front of her. She covers for her. Girl gets it together and says, “Baai, auntie. Sorry aunty.”
Next time old woman spots her she is all dressed up on a corner, waiting to get picked up by …. and bad boy is watching.
Our eyes meet and the whole horror of her story is communicated as I drive by in my car.
Only God can save her now.
Who has no self respect here?
Where was it lost?
See? It is not lost.Tears are the evidence of it very much present.
Girl knows she made a bad choice and to get out and away from that demands an authority or someone who cares enough for HER AND RESPECTS HER HIGHER SELF completely, to help her escape.
She can’t get out alone. But society doesn’t respect prostitutes and/or drug addicts. So … the circus goes on unchecked because… in my case, too much on my plate already and girl turned down initial offer of help out of fear and perhaps trust. We didn’t have enough time alone for me to convince her.
It is hard to believe anyone would care that much to begin with.
So, dump that self respect judgement. There is no lack of it, there is only helplessness which comes as a result of ….trauma and drugs and some romamtic notion in the beginning. Regret and pain… is evidence of self harm and when we choose wrong we surely do know we messed up. Getting out and away is as hard as you can’t imagine.
We make choices. Love is usually involved. Trauma - complex or simple - adds fuel to the crisis in the decision making process.
For instance, a beautiful young girl falls for a rogue who is handsome but not sincere. She leaves home, all safety, to be with said being. Cocaine at least is involved.
Now young girl is used to get money. She begs. She tells tall tales. Dark knight is in the wings. Waiting for the pot of gold.
Problem. Old woman says, why are you not home with your mom? Tears whell up in big beautiful eyes.
“Don’t let him see me crying.”
Old woman stands in front of her. She covers for her. Girl gets it together and says, “Baai, auntie. Sorry aunty.”
Next time old woman spots her she is all dressed up on a corner, waiting to get picked up by …. and bad boy is watching.
Our eyes meet and the whole horror of her story is communicated as I drive by in my car.
Only God can save her now.
Who has no self respect here?
Where was it lost?
See? It is not lost.Tears are the evidence of it very much present.
Girl knows she made a bad choice and to get out and away from that demands an authority or someone who cares enough for HER AND RESPECTS HER HIGHER SELF completely, to help her escape.
She can’t get out alone. But society doesn’t respect prostitutes and/or drug addicts. So … the circus goes on unchecked because… in my case, too much on my plate already and girl turned down initial offer of help out of fear and perhaps trust. We didn’t have enough time alone for me to convince her.
It is hard to believe anyone would care that much to begin with.
So, dump that self respect judgement. There is no lack of it, there is only helplessness which comes as a result of ….trauma and drugs and some romamtic notion in the beginning. Regret and pain… is evidence of self harm and when we choose wrong we surely do know we messed up. Getting out and away is as hard as you can’t imagine.
